BIG GIRLS GANG

WHO IS A BIG GIRL???.....

The fact that different guys pick you up every Friday night does not make you a big girl. The fact that you wear all latest clothes in the market, does not make you a big girl.

And for the fact that you use the latest phone, big phones, ipad, blackberry, android, Samsung Galaxy and different men pay money into your account does not make you a big girl. 

For the fact that you have entered almost all the

biggest hotels in the city with different guys, does not make you a big girl. It does not even make you smart!

You are only eating up your future. The fact that you dress half naked and you wear clothes that expose your cleavages and definitely makes you look sexy does not make you a big girl. You are just too cheap.

THEN WHO IS A BIG GIRL ??.

A big girl is a girl with enough brain in her, not the one with more money. The girl that think of consequences before actions. She is not the one who flirt with all men

around her. 

She is the one who respects her relationship or marriage. She is never heard of, but seen. You know her by what she does; her behavior & character speaks a lot about her.

 She is every man's queen; decently dressed....always decently good looking. She is neat both in and out. She takes good care of her body. Believe me, real men loves neat women. 

A big girl respects the value of womanhood..... She carries herself with more dignity... Stop boasting about the number of men you have slept with my dear.. Remember, cheap articles always have more buyers..... Sleeping with all your male friends doesn't mean you are sexy. 

Build yourself into the woman people will always respect and admire, Don't follow men who will make a mess of your life.....but be humble, be Godly....be hardworking, be patient, respect your relationship or marriage, be ambitious but contented...be bold, don't make men a priority in life............. Men will seek after you when you build yourself into the woman men will always want to take home to their mothers.

 Not the one they only want to take to hotels and clubs. 

TRUST ME, If you trap a man with your body, he will go one day. A lady without morals and dignity is like a phone without sim card. Sorry, if i just stepped on a toe, I'm only being sincere, just and blunt.

Am i making any sense at all?.

Ladies you're free to say your mind...

Domestic violence

Let’s have the flow of Valentine’s Day with TRUE LOVE...HAPPY VALENTINE TO EVERYONE 

Domestic  violence in our society has to stop, enough of fathers beating mothers, parents molesting children and others.

Also important is that friends and loved ones of victims are in a better place to help if they understand what domestic violence looks like. Therefore, it's important that people understand the definition of domestic violence and the many forms it can take.

When the general public thinks about domestic violence, they usually think in terms of physical assault that results in visible injuries to the victim. This is only one type of abuse. There are several categories of abusive behavior, each of which has its own devastating consequences. Lethality involved with physical abuse may place the victim at higher risk, but the long term destruction of personhood that accompanies the other forms of abuse is significant and cannot be minimized.

Definition of Domestic Violence: Types of Abuse

According to the United States Department of Justice office on violence against women, the definition of domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain control over another intimate partner. Many types of abuse are included in the definition of domestic violence:

• Physical abuse can include hitting, biting, slapping, battering, shoving, punching, pulling hair, burning, cutting, pinching, etc. (any type of violent behavior inflicted on the victim). Physical abuse also includes denying someone medical treatment and forcing drug/alcohol use on someone.
  
• Sexual abuse occurs when the abuser coerces or attempts to coerce the victim into having sexual contact or sexual behavior without the victim's consent. This often takes the form of marital rape, attacking sexual body parts, physical violence that is followed by forcing sex, sexually demeaning the victim, or even telling sexual jokes at the victim's expense.
• Emotional abuse involves invalidating or deflating the victim's sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem. Emotional abuse often takes the form of constant criticism, name-calling, injuring the victim's relationship with his/her children, or interfering with the victim's abilities.
  
• Economic abuse takes place when the abuser makes or tries to make the victim financially reliant. Economic abusers often seek to maintain total control over financial resources, withhold the victims access to funds, or prohibit the victim from going to school or work.
• Psychological abuse involves the abuser invoking fear through intimidation; threatening to physically hurt himself/herself, the victim, children, the victim's family or friends, or the pets; destruction of property; injuring the pets; isolating the victim from loved ones; and prohibiting the victim from going to school or work.
• Threats to hit, injure, or use a weapon are a form of psychological abuse.
• Stalking can include following the victim, spying, watching, harassing, showing up at the victim's home or work, sending gifts, collecting information, making phone calls, leaving written messages, or appearing at a person's home or workplace. These acts individually are typically legal, but any of these behaviors done continuously results in a stalking crime.
• Cyberstalking refers to online action or repeated emailing that inflicts substantial emotional distress in the recipient

Definition of Domestic Violence: Victims

Definitions of domestic violence recognize that victims can include anyone, regardless of socioeconomic background, education level, race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. Domestic violence was formerly referred to as wife abuse. However, this term was abandoned when the definition of domestic violence was changed to reflect that wives are not the only ones who can fall victim to domestic violence. The definition of domestic violence now recognizes that victims can be:

• Spouses
• Sexual/Dating/Intimate partners
• Family members
• Children
• Cohabitants

Many people think that a victim of domestic violence can only obtain a protective order against their spouse. This is actually a myth. Most states allow victims of abusive cohabitant lovers to obtain protective orders (also referred to as temporary restraining orders or emergency protective orders). Some states allow victims of abusive adult relatives, roommates, or even non-cohabitating partners to obtain protective orders. The laws in each state are different, so check the most updated laws in your state.

Dating Violence

Dating violence is another form of domestic violence. The violence against women act defines dating violence according to the relationship between the abuser and victim. Dating violence is committed by a person in a social, romantic, or intimate relationship with the victim. The existence of such relationship is determined using the following factors:

• The length of the relationship
• The type of relationship
• The partners frequency of interaction

Does the Definition of Domestic Violence Apply to Your Situation? Ask an Attorney

A complete definition of domestic violence encompasses many forms of abuse and negative behavior. Domestic violence is a destructive crime that carries life-altering damage to everyone involved. If you have confusion or questions about how the law can address your domestic violence concerns, speak to an skilled family law attorney located near you.

Vision not fission

NEVER GIVE UP

We all go through hard times in life. It’s a part of being alive and it's the reality we all have to deal with. 

There are times we forget our value as a person because we are so blinded with these thoughts of loneliness, emptiness and ego. 

Somewhere along the road we become numbed with all the frustrations and dissatisfaction. 

But life itself isn't always about darkness and sadness, Life is also filled with colors and that makes it beautiful. Along this path of darkness there's always light waiting to be seen by our daunted hearts. Our heart is gifted to see this light.

 It may be hiding behind those circumstances that we encounter; in a stranger we just met at an unexpected place; a family who has been always there but you just ignored because of your imperfect relationship with them; it might be a long time friend you have or a friend you just met.

 Open your heart and you will see how blessed you are to have them all in your life. Sometimes they are the light that shines your path in some dark phases of life. Don't lose hope.

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ACTING STRONG WHILE WEAK (COMPANIONSHIP)

 

When your heart wants something and your mind is made up on something else,it is very difficult to walk in line with what God has for you.
There are times in life that you feel you have it all but deep down inside there is still a vacuum for one particular thing called COMPANION.

Companionship is one thing that you can not get or give to yourself alone.that is where the need for someone else in your life comes in play to fill the vacuum in your heart which makes you feel complete.
The fact is there is no one as a companion that won't help you achieve your purpose in life.

He/She is meant to be your helpmate, your friend, your father, your mother, your angry mate, your play mate,your confidant, your teacher, your student,your child, infact your all in all.

There is no better feeling than having a true companion. STOP acting strong when you are not deep down, you have the heart to love again, somebody somewhere around you wants to be that special true companion, just let it go and feel what people around you feel, feel what God what you to feel,feel happy and healthy BUT know your principles and stand by them but let go of that strong feel of you can stay on your own because the Bible said in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 " Two are BETTER than one..." No one can ever stay alone in life,there must be a companion to compliment you always.


To be continued.... Get READY to love again


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JUST IMAGINE.(NIGERIA MY COUNTRY)

I'm a serving corps member, who studied computer engineering in one of the Polytechnics in Nigeria.



When I was younger, I used to think the reason Nigerians working on road construction or electrical installations were mostly supervised by white men was because they are not knowledgeable in the field. I couldn't have been further from the truth!



It was not till much later I found out that some of those workers are quite(and in some cases more) knowledgeable with the practical hands-on knowledge to boot but the government has no trust or belief in our abilities. They completely discard what we learnt from the institutions they prepared for us in the country.



I started thinking about this trend recently due to an incident I witnessed on my way to my CDS meeting. I boarded a bike and we passed via a road along an estate, what I saw got me disturbed and thinking, though it's not a big deal as it is a common occurrence but I was moved by the incident that day.



I saw two white men standing, one was busy on a phone call and the other staring straight ahead. I was curious so I followed his gaze to see what made him so focused. Two of my beloved country men were holding shovels,working with worn out clothes, looking so unkempt and dirty. I was pained and thought to myself "it's their country they are being treated like this?"



My questions are:



Does it mean our educational system can't teach us what we need to build our country ourselves without western interference?



Does it mean we're still slaves even after slavery?



Does our government know what it's doing atall?



Does it mean there are no bright men and women that can set our affairs aright?



Or we are just going to follow this already failed pattern laid before us?



Is going to school in Nigeria is a waste?



What can we do to eliminate or reduce drastically this routine of giving foreigners jobs that we are complaining that we don't have?


So many questions...

I believe the answer starts with you and I.
Yes, you reading this.

It may not seem like it now but if you become the president tomorrow can your current habits sustain you?

If you get a million dollar contract now will integrity suppress greed?

You were once class rep. did you omit your friends name from defaulters even when he was guilty?

My point is, if you're in the position of our leaders will you be different?


You can start the change

Think am o,
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HOW TO KEEP YOUR LADY

HOW TO KEEP THE LADY YOU ARE DATING

Do you love your girl and you don't want another man to snatch her from you? Then do the following things:
1. Give her plenty of attention. If you give her attention, she will not seek for attention elsewhere. Chat with her online via social media or else another man will.
2. Give her listening ears whenever she is speaking to you. Avoid pressing your phone or reading a newspaper when your girl is talking to you.
3. Do not promise her and fail. Do not promise her what you cannot do. It is better for you to say you don't have or you can't do it than to promise and fail.
4. Do not be stingy. Avoid telling her that you don't have, you don't have all the time,try to share with the little you have with her.
5. Be caring. To be caring does not only mean you should be giving her money. There are many ways of showing care; e.g show concern whenever she is sad or in problems; be by her side when she is in problems, do not abandon her in her days of sorrow and hapiness.
6. Tell her daily that she is beautiful,compliment is one thing a lady desire from her man.
7. Tell her daily that you love her,don't stop telling her how much you love her even if she knowns about it,it keeps her heart high and feel secure.

8. Play with her and joke with her daily,do funny and annoying things when with her always,that will help her know your kind of being and love you more.
9. Don't be too hard and don't be too soft. Scold her a little, and pet her a little. Do not over pet or over scold.this gives respect to both parties.
10. Love her siblings, and respect her parents.
11. Appreciate her when she helps you to do something or tried helping you with something.
12. Allow her to advise you, seek her suggestions and respect her opinions. remember, a woman is an helpmate to her man. for without the nect the head can't stand on it own and perform well as the head.
13. Respect her. Respect is Reciprocal.
14. Do not take her for granted.
15. Do not cheat on her. mind the female friends you keep around.
16. Play with her hairs.tell her the hair styles you like and appreciate her after all her efforts to look good for you.

17. kiss her on her forehead, cheek and neck. It will pass a good message to her.
18. Let her sit on your lap sometimes.
19. showcase her to your close friends and family,that will also give her security of being loved and accepted.
20. Gossip with her,tell her the truth always even if it hurts...the truth pays..

I hope with these little points we will keep a health relationship and this can be applied also to our married people.

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MARRIAGE: MARRY YOUR MATE

MARRY YOUR MATE
marriage is the only institution one enters and gets it certificate on the very day of registration. there are certian things one is to do before considering marriage. below are some mates one is to marry.

6 MATES YOU MUST MARRY

One of the ways your marriage will not add to the rate of divorce in our world today is for you to marry your mate and if you are married already, make your spouse your mate!
You see that statement of ' Am I your mate?' does not apply in marriage. You must marry your mate. I will like to talk on seven dimensions you and the person you want to marry or you have married must be mate.
1. MARRY YOUR SPEAKING MATE

Marry someone you can speak together and understand each other. Communication is very crucial in marriage. Don't marry someone that, when you are saying 'A' he or she will be saying ' Z' Once there is dichotomy in your speaking and understanding level, you can't enjoy that marriage. So many men go to bar to hang out with friends and gist till 11pm because they know their wives can't engage in any meaningful intellectual discussion. So many women too prefer to hang out with their friends, because they know their husbands mentality when it comes to vital issues and discussions is very low. Marry your speaking Mate.
2.MARRY YOUR SCHOOL MATE

By this I mean, marry someone you can learn together and improve together. In this 21st century,you learn,relearn and unlearn. Don't marry ' Mr Know all' or 'Miss Know all'. Don't marry someone who is rigid and not open to new ideas, new ways of doing things, or new innovations. Marriage is a great institution. From day one till death do you part, you will keep learning. Marry your 'school' mate; someone who is ready to learn with you.
3.MARRY YOUR SPIRITUAL MATE

Marriage is not just a social union. It is also a spiritual union. Marry someone who knows the same God you know. Don't marry someone who's believe of God is different from yours. Two can't work together except they be agreed ( Amos 3:3, Joshua 23: 11-15, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). The spiritual controls the physical, even in marriage. Check for spiritual compatibility in that person you want to marry.
4. MARRY YOUR SPENDING MATE

 Don't marry someone who is stingy. There are so many expenses to cater for in marriage. A stingy guy in courtship won't suddenly become a generous husband in marriage. Don't marry a lady that has the financial philosophy of ' My husband's money is our money, but my money is my money'. Marry someone who believes in dignity of labour , who is ready to work, not a lazy fellow who just want to be a consumer and not a contributor. Marry someone who is ready to spend and be spent for the growth and success of the family.
5. MARRY YOUR SEX MATE

 Marry someone you have sexual feelings for. Sexual feeling is not a sin. It is an instinct God put in every person. Sex plays a major role in the success of any marriage. Any man you don't have emotional feelings for, don't marry the person. If you don't have emotional feelings for that lady, leave her alone. A spiritual being is also a sexual being. No matter how spiritual you both may be in your marriage, you won't be praying for 24 hours in a day. You won't be reading the Bible or worshipping God 24/7. You will have sex! You will romance! You will flirt with each other! You will make babies. So, marry someone you can connect with sexually. It will help you to enjoy your marriage so much!
6. MARRY YOUR SOCIAL MATE

Don't marry someone you won't be proud to go out with. Don't marry someone you will be feeling shy to introduce to people with boldness. Marry someone you are comfortable to hang out with. Marry someone you are socially compatible with. Don't marry an anti- social person.

You might be wondering if you can find all the 'mates' in one person. Yes! The answer is YES! You don't need to marry 6 guys/ladies to have all these mates. One person can be all that for you. If you also work on yourself and build your life, you can be all that for the guy/lady that will marry you.
The promise of God for you is this : 'Seek and read from the book of the LORD: Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the LORD has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them.' (Isaiah 34:16).
Say it loud and clear ' I shall not lack a mate!'.

stay blessed...

Happy new month...
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SEX,LOVE AND VIRGINITY

SEX, LOVE AND VIRGINITY!!!

     A lot of girls complain that guys walk away from them simply because,they refused giving them sex,some are even tempted to give away their virginity just to keep the guys.

  Let me be very blunt here...
Virginity may not be the real reason why the guys go away, yes, no doubt, there are several guys who want sex, and if they don't get it, they walk away. The problem may not be the virginity or the sex.lets check the story in the bible on the ten virgins.

   The story of the Ten virgins in the Bible reveals that both the wise and the foolish were virgins; the other Five were not allowed seeing the bridegroom not because they were virgins or because they lost their virginity.

   NO! But because they were foolish and they were called foolish because they had no EXTRA OIL . And the EXTRA OIL here is CHARACTER!.

    Most girls do not have extra oil to sustain any relationship, while many brag about their virginity, that's all they have to offer.
Aside your virginity, what do you have to offer to a man?

- Can you support him spiritually?
- Can you support him physically?
- How about mentally?
- What about financially?

All you do is demand money for bag, shoes, clothes, and outing, making him spend unnecessarily.

Have you ever sit him down, and you help him plan about his future?
Has he ever seen you as someone he can confide in?
How many times has he come being in a state of dilemma seeking advice from you?
Rather than jumping from one club to another.

    And for the virgins,  they forget that virginity ends after the wedding, but EXTRA OIL continues.
Yes... Nobody is perfect...
We all have our bad sides...
BUT...
Try to be a woman that a man will always regret losing for the rest of his life.Be that woman that your man can never afford to lose to another man.
Build your man to your taste...
And stop looking for a ready made husband.

* Force yourself on that rich dude that you didn't work with to achieve what he has, And hear the story of your life from him one day.
- Did You Work With me to achieve all I've got?
- Ever since you've entered this house... What has added to what you met?

* Note:
- There's just nothing as best as building up your man yourself.
- And you will forever earn his respect.
Don't be a dependent lady but an independent lady that help builds her future home.
more from the book "THE SECRETS OF VIRGINITY" by Osarumwense Glory.O.

SEX AND FEELINGS

SEX AND FEELINGS



A man can have sex with a lady and still don't have any feelings for her, men only need space to have sex but women need reason to have sex.

A woman cannot have sex without feelings except sex workers. A man can travel for eight hours 'just to have sex with a female friend and yet, not love her.

 Sex makes men act as if they are in love while they are not. The eight hours travel sacrifice, gifts bought, hotel paid for and other expenses may seem to be coming from true love but they were all in the sacrifice for sex and nothing more.

The foolish thing is this, the majority of women would jump up inside them and conclude that this is the art of true love.
Sex is not an act of commitment. Men still leave the women they sleep with on bed and start thinking of the next woman to sleep with. The satisfaction that comes from sex dies in minutes. It is in the nature of Lions to go miles to hunt. The same with men. A man who can afford the expenses of flying from the UK to Nigeria for sex would do it as if he would never turn to another woman for sex.

Sex drives men to do what seems like the impossible and such turns women around and they start acting weird. Sex and love are not on the same page even in the dictionary. People can abandon their gold mines and dig the grave for sex. Most young men do terrible things just to have the resources to keep many girls in their life.

You may think they are working hard to live well in the future but they are just living for fun and that is all. Students are now living together like husbands and wives, and our society calls it love. What kind of people do these students become when they leave school?
This is why we have a lot of frustrated graduates than nations building graduates.

Today, a 16-year-old girl is already into sex. She wants to wear everything on trend. She is already a prostitute in the sense that any man that comes her way for relationship must show some signs of money and she would respond to him.

The funny thing is this, almost all those girls that have become sex symbols end up in a deep mess. How many of them today is changing the world they are into? What kind of spirit would they do well within life? They have sold their souls out to sex. They pride on what they wear and hotels they go to. That is their biggest achievement. The girls they called cowards are setting up economic empires. Their future is already exhausted when they come to their true senses?

Advice to my beloved brothers and sisters:
For men; never allow your erection today to destroy your future directions, stay positive.
My sisters, all that glitters is not gold, make your future bright and its start today.

I am not posting this to make anyone guilty or stand as a judge. We have turned or set aside a special date FEBRUARY 14TH for this purpose alone which is directly opposite of what that day was slated for and other festivities to Sexual seasons instead of The season of Grace and Mercy.

God awaits you for a change today!!!

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